Ramadan

Showing the single result

  1. Papatia

    We have one too! Very high maintenance lol! May Allah bless our children ,amiin ;)!

    1. Amma Liz

      Aren’t they a handful subhan’Allah 😊 yes Ameen to the dua ♡

      1. Papatia

        Yup! They are 🙂 masha’Allah.

  2. muslimah

    Hm sounds like my daughter as a infant she was high needs turns out she has SPD Sensory processing disorder

    1. Aleeza S

      We are dealing with it right now…no outrageous behaviour to get us really worried but then we have worked VERY hard. We held him alot, I was wearing alot. There has always been alot of skin contact. But now that I have weaned him off breastfeeding and not wearing him at all, I see he is not as settled as he used to be.

      1. muslimah

        Sounds like might be time for SPD evaluation, as it takes a whole team of people to diagnose .

        1. Aleeza S

          I don’t know sister. What made you really concerned in tje first place?

          1. muslimah

            My daughter wouldn’t sleep unless she was moving , she slept in my arms or in a baby swing , she never really settled like my older children did when they were babies and she had issues with clothing ,example if the clothes where to soft for her or if the tag bugged her she would over react

      2. Aleeza S

        Sounds pretty much like my son. since he was our first, we didn’t have anyone to compare him to and just took everything as it came. But I must admit having read Dr Sears book helped us adjust to the situation alot. I never felt that I needed to take him to the doctor to get him evaluated because I met his needs even though it wore me out terribly! Every day is different from the first but Alhamdulillah but it gets better everyday.

        I did sense there was something I needed to work on and I am not boasting here when I say I really did work very very hard. Insha’Allah I will cover that in the coming posts. Till then sister I highly recommend you read the fussy baby book and the attachment parenting book by Dr sears.

  3. Mama Bug

    Well said. And I love that you put in what keeps you going. Many mamas forget that in the heat of the moment. But I like to remember those things with mine. And the laughs, oh my, just absolutely infectious.

    1. Aleeza S

      Had I written this post when Munna was just a few months old, I wouldn’t be so chirpy. Thay was definitely the hardest time.of my life. braced for what’s to come 😉

      1. Mama Bug

        Absolutely, it is harder in the heat of the moment.

    2. Fionna

      Oh my God subhanAllah! Sounds exactly like my son mashaa Allah. Glad to know “we” are normal or there are ppl like us out there!

      His energy was so much and so intense it overwhelmed me much of the time. I thought babies would just lie down, self soothe, eat, poop, sleep. But man was I terribly wrong. But alhamdulilla I find him being more alert than most kids and as he grows now I see he is quite quite smart…. So I guess all the difficulty is paying off.

      1. Mama Bug

        Sorry it took me so long to get to this, I’ve been struggling with my phone to reply to comments, and it just doesn’t want to. However, I’m back on the computer today. YAY!!! That said, yes, the difficulty does pay off. And, as we continue on, all that stubbornness, and focus, and everything else, when directed in the correct place pays off not only when they are older children. However, as adults, they become the leaders, the creators, and so much more. It is well worth it, and each mommy (and daddy) that goes through this will be happy at the end of the race. As overwhelming as it is now, we should enjoy it while it lasts, because it happens all too fast. Soon these years will be gone. Welcome aboard!!! I’m happy you have found us and don’t feel so alone. That is why I started busy buggies. So we all know we’re not alone in this.

      2. Aleeza S

        yes Alhamdulillah sis. Light at the end of the tunnel 😊

  4. ummsumi13

    I read that too with my first daughter cos she ticked most of those boxes. She’s almost 3 now and although it’s a lot more manageable, she’s definitely more sensitive and attached than even my 15 month daughter. I think there’s something special about a high needs baby, they need extra nurture and I think that can translate into a highly empathetic and intuitive child inshaAllah.

    Strive through, it passes so quickly. When I did what felt natural, demand fed, snuggled with her in my bed, forgot schedules and rules my motherhood journey became so much more beautiful.
    May Allah swt give you sabr and make lil Munna the coolness of your eyes xx

    1. Aleeza S

      Ameen ! I wish the same and much much more for you dear sister x

  5. Fateema Abdallah

    Thank you for having letting me know about your blog sister, I will surely subscribe as it will be helpful for me.

    Being a parent is really a roller coaster ride. I don’t know if a high need baby is the same as a baby who loves to get his parent’s attention but my son is definitely of the latter category. Everything he does or achieved he comes and let me know about it. He always makes sure I am around when he plays. He is two years old and I realized that part of him only recently.

    People will always tell how to raise your kid but every kid is unique , special and what works for other parents will not automatically work for us. It really takes a lot of time for a mother to decipher her baby’s personality. Like you I also thought for some time I was doing wrong somewhere when I felt helpless and failures. But Alhamdulillah I am learning little by little and it requires a looooooot of patience. ( Note the many “o” in the word “lot” :D)

    1. Aleeza S

      It DOES require aloooot of patience sister :)> This is coming from someone who never knew she had it in her :). Yes a mother should never underestimate her own instinct.

  6. chloesmom

    My little one is a high news baby. I find it gets easier the older she gets, but when she was wee little I was stressed out! Not so much by her actually, because she was fairly content as long as she was in the wrap, but everyone else stressed me out so bad with all of their “advice”

    1. Aleeza S

      true it actually does get better or maybe you just adapt but the naysayers do exhaust you.

  7. muslimah

    Thanks for sharing the recipe

  8. trkingmomoe

    This looks wonderful. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Aleeza S

      You are welcome 😊. Thanks for stopping by.

  9. Fateema Abdallah

    Yummy, even my son likes nuggets soooo much. I will try out your recipe in sh Allah

    1. Aleeza S

      Please let us know how they turn out 😊

  10. Papatia

    Bahahahah! Check, check, check! He’s all of of these >_<. Dragon is the word! I say little devil and it's close enough lol!

  11. Fateema Abdallah

    I should read more about SPD because most of the time I feel the way that woman described how she felt.

  12. ummeabeeha

    Well..i have two Ma sha Allah…elder is a girl and then a boy now Ma sha Allah 3 years old…
    My daughter is high need baby girl as she never compromised on her attention span after arrival of his brother but she was calm and observant…
    Then comes the turn of my little man…..
    Trust me he never sits down for a single moment all the time when he is awake…..
    I mean i am really worried about him as he never listen to me….he does every thing from which we forbade him….and continuously do it again and again….and then yes that part after doing that quickly say sorry ..hug me…with laughs on his face……
    May Allah enable and guide me to have guided kids In sha Allah…

    1. Aleeza S

      Ameen!
      Ummeabeeha one thing I noticed with my son is that he will do those things the most at which we get agitated. I guess they like getting a response from us. Once I stop ignore him and stop noticing he stops. And this has worked for me in everything! Have you ever noticed kids don’t like doing those things the most which we want them to do. They pick up on our tension. What I have learnt is to stay calm. It gets them doing almost anything (provided they are well fed and relaxed). The same goes for food. Try it and let me know if it works for you or not 🙂

  13. K

    Don’t know what happend to mine, looked just lIke your picture…but was mushy, too much like oatmeal in a bowl…. threw it out!

    1. Aleeza S

      oh no! Maybe you baked it at too low a temperature? You should have tried baking a bit long till it formed a crust on the surface. I am going to make this again tomorrow as my little one loved it 🙂

  14. sara

    making this now and I thought 220F was really low, but I tried it anyway bc i had no idea otherwise! 🙂
    Now I’m baking it at 430F for 20 mins…
    perhaps it would help to specify C or F in your recipe!
    thanks! looking forward to trying it in 20 mins 😛

    1. Aleeza S

      Good thinking! Just corrected. It’s 220 C :). Sorry about that

  15. muslimah

    My children were all different when it came to sleep, I have had super easy to very high needs , just hang in there remember this to shall pass then when it’s gone you’ll miss it

  16. Maha Khan

    Mashallah, Mashallah , Mahsallah. I pray for him to grow in strength, increase in piety and to spread his light. Allah bless you.

    1. Aleeza S

      Ameen! Jazakillah sister ♡♡♡ Since commenting is not available on your blog, I will say it here that you are doing amazing work through your blog! We need the awareness in the community. May Allah bless your work

  17. zayeneesha

    Oh boi the details ❤ mashaaAllah tabaarakAllah 🙂

  18. Mama Chamby

    Assalamu Alaikum, sister. Thanks for liking my blog. Subhanallah, I’m so glad I stumbled upon yours because my baby checks out the entire list. Not. Kidding. I thought it had something to do with poor time management but I’m pretty much locked in with my tasks. There are a gazillions of things I want to do after giving birth but baby Ayah takes up most of my day. She is not self-soothing at all! She enjoys the company of people rather than entertaining herself with toys. Her alone time with toys only takes less than 10 minutes.

    1. Aleeza S

      Walaikumsalam sister. Thank you for stopping by. By son is 2.5 years old now and sometimes still wants my constant attention. If not its just draining trying to keep up with him all day long. Hence finding it a bit hard to keep up with the blog. But it DOES get easy if we accept the way our children are rather than try to change them. I have fabricated my life around the needs of my son, this way he is thriving and I am more at peace with myself too 🙂

  19. Attachment Parenting: Some Real & Raw Facts

    […] our first child, Munna a very high needs child and that’s when I figured why he did write the book he did. One of the things which being […]

  20. ParentingIsFunny

    Glad you guys came through shining. If you have another child, that one will be so easy in comparison (most likely)!

  21. awakennrise

    BEAUTIFUL ARTICLE……. Love your insight & thought process… barakallahu feek

  22. Hg2Hd

    Beautiful MashAllah. So true!

    1. Amna S

      Masha Allah. Nice words. My 5 year old is hyper active and now I’m feeling in myself not parenting him rightly .. insha Allah with dua and effort I ll try my best.

      1. Aleeza S

        Dua is what gets you through at the end of the day 😊

  23. ChristalBlogs

    My husband and I were discussing the same thing! I don’t believe in the terrible twos, it’s all part of their development, pushing boundaries and exploring a world that’s still new to them alhamdulillah. And you’re right, having and raising children is a tremendous privilege alhamdulillah for it 😊

  24. Fazy

    Masha Allah thank you so much for this post. As a new mom I am always digging how to bring up my baby in a good way. I loved this!!!

  25. sakeenahbegum

    You have great insight mashaAllah. Too often, we forget our kids are just that, kids and in need of our patience and understanding more than anything. Great post.

  26. Fatima A. (@Blogsbyfa)

    Play dough sounds interesting but I haven’t yet given that to my son. I think he is too little and he won’t know how to play with it. What’s the best age to give it to kids?

    1. Aleeza S

      Fatima I introduced mine to it at 18 months and he was thrilled. It was around the time he had stopped mouthing stuff.

  27. Amina

    You are right, children are not meant to be controlled and manipulated according to the adults’ needs. They are a trust and we must model the best of manners and morals to them. Alhamdulillah for your reflective parenting model. Keeps things in check.

  28. usranaeem

    Exactly you are so right!
    They see & want to do exactly what their parents do so parents have to be more careful ❤

  29. AYEINA

    What a beautiful post. I gotta love the advice that It’s alright if the laundry piles up a bit or the house is a mess. It’s not going to be the end of the world if you can’t remember when you last changed sheets.
    So important to put yourself first in this situation for the good of your kids even!

  30. Ramsha Rose

    This is so informative and useful for those who are pregnant and already have a toddler. I think independence is great at a young age and it encourages them to be more confident too. May Allah swt make your pregnancy easy and shower His blessings upon you and your family 🙂
    Ramsha | Rose
    xxx

    1. Aleeza S

      Jazakillah khair sis. Ameen to the dua ❤We welcomed a baby girl 2 weeks ago Alhamdulillah. Now we have other things to worry about 😂 that phase now seems so easy compared to this now 😌

  31. Alex

    When does it get better? And how do you know?

  32. Asbah Alaena

    Maybe there are terrible twos as well :/

    But mostly its us who lose an opportunity to teach our children valueable lessons of empathy and tolerance because we have our egos our perspective or we are so controlling – we are desi parents after all.

    And oh! Threenager must be very similr to teenager :/ i have a 3yo and a 2yo and I can understand

    I blog ay amuslimmama.com

  33. Barakah

    This is such an important topic that many of us neglect to address. Thanks for the reminder. So many beneficial points.

    1. Aleeza S

      Alhamdulillah you benefited

  34. Jeanne

    Such an important topic. One that is crucial for this generation.
    Totally agree with that the “good touch, bad touch” differentiation is problematic- as you said, when our private areas are touched, it can feel good, so why is this bad?’ Also instilling a sense of shame surrounding their sexual pleasures can cause marital issues for them in he future. Changing the language to safe and unsafe is a step in the right direction I think.
    May Allah enable us to speak openly to our children, and equip them to know what is right and wrong. As when those lines get blurred, trouble is sure to seep in.

    1. Aleeza S

      Ameen to the dua🧡 Yes concepts picked up in childhood tend to stay forever. Same goes for abuse, it can and does impact victim’s whole life. Best way forward is to try to prevent abuse best we can and if its happened, support and counsel the victim because it’s never his fault.

  35. Amina

    Cannot stress enough on the importance of this topic. I wish we were educated on this when we were younger. A really good friend of mine was touched inappropriately by a stranger and a relative multiple times at a young age and I guess was just scared and ashamed to tell anyone. She had mentioned to me and another friend but we just didn’t take it seriously, In fact we giggled!!! ( we were in lower elementary) I want to pull my hair out each time I think about it, and it’s something I can never forget and no way can imagine this happening to my child.
    I agree with you how we really need to be clear and specific about our kids body parts and I LOVE how you put it – Safe and Unsafe touch. There is no need to be shy and hesitant when teaching our kids, if we don’t who will?! May Allah protect all our children from all the evil.
    Thank you for writing this so comprehensively and with such clarity. You have been blessed with the gift of writing, May Allah reward you!❤️

  36. Aleeza S

    Jazakillah khair for your well wishes 💛. You shouldn’t blame yourself for not being able to help your friend then because you didn’t know any better. Pray for your friend that it wasn’t anything worse than that and she was able to cope. Alhamdulillah we are now better equipped to educate our children 🧡

  37. Noor

    This topic that you came up this time is really related to what’s going on anywhere in the world. Because of these stories and news that I hear it really makes me worried like to the point even boys are effected. Inshaallah we will be able to raise our child safely and aware of his surroundings.

  38. Bushra

    You’ve chosen a very nice topic for a blog… child molestation is rising rapidly especially in India… and we all need to teach the children about the good and the bad touch.

  39. Ayeina

    Great post! Jazakallahu Khayran Kaseera for sharing such amazing tips with us <3 We did a campaign against child abuse in our local schools last year and it was a great experience talking to school kids Alhamdulillah. -F

  40. Jamila Jones

    Fantastic topic and one that definitely should be discussed and made more aware of. Its so good you have listed out all the different practical ways we can protect our children and for them to protect themselves, and I agree with you the words safe touch, unsafe touch is better words to use, these words are much more powerful..

  41. Fozia S

    JazakAllah Khair for sharing. I must admit this is not something I have discussed with the girls but I know it is important and shouldn’t shy away from it. So in sha Allah will get a discussion going with them

  42. Lubna

    Very thoughtful post….thank you for sharing…though I have read these before…I feel i learn new every time I read something like this…

  43. Sana

    This so well written and such an important topic. We try to talk to our kids and have the rules of in sight play and are usually very vigilant. But you brought up so many points that we hadn’t touched up on or talked about in the way you mentioned. So we will definitely be talking to them again. Thank you so much for writing this. It is indeed a very important topic and in this day unfortunately, it’s very real. 😢

  44. Lilac Prose

    This is such an important topic to discuss with children and you’ve explained it really well. Thanks for sharing!

  45. Tamanna

    I have benefited greatly from this post Aleeza. I cannot thank you enough for organizing interviews with amazing and powerful women like sister Khadija! Keep it up. I have followed her and hope to learn how to raise my boys to be resilient. Inshallah

  46. Maira

    Such an inspiring story. It makes me rethink on daily planing. I always seem to find less productive hours since the baby and never get arouns to writing more than 4 sentences before giving up for one baby related reason or the other. Her story puts mije in perspective. Indeed Allah SWT opens doors for those who come knocking. Jazakallahu Khair for sharing her story Aleeza.

  47. Israa

    I loved this book so much , my 2 years old son started to know more about Allah and prophet Mohammed and his sunnah with simple way for kids. It’s designed beautifully with nice and attractive colours and excellent material as well .

  48. Fozia S

    JazakAllah Khair for sharing. Masha’Allah she has given some great advie

  49. @simplyhomeschoolnow

    Allahumma barik alayki! Loved reading this! We need more women they this in our community.

    Thank you for the article.

  50. Noor

    I love the title you put for this series. Your 1st interview gives a very good impact on this because she has shared many valuable thoughts and information. I’m so proud of her such a courageous and successful muslimah.

  51. jamila

    very inspirational, its good that she has used her life experience as a driving force to make things good for herself and boys. jazakallah khair

  52. Samira

    ‘I love Muhammad’ was a hit at our house!
    Every time we read it,there are more questions my 3 year old asks about the prophet. And the book’s color and wipe feature has made it my 1 year old’s go-to book. Looking forward to the next book in the series.

  53. Ayeina

    Ma shaa Allah! Such great interview! Such great advices. May Allah bless her and you for this <3 Ameen JazakumAllahu Khayr

  54. Mona Ismaeil

    Mashallah I loved this post! So much valuable advice here for all sisters at all points in their life.

  55. Barakah

    Great interview! Mashaa Allah. As a mum of four and entrepreneur, I can totally relate to a lot of what she’s said- balance is key.

    Keep up the great work sis!

  56. Lubna

    Not everyone can start again….Allhumdulliah you did it…kudos to you…for your courage, thinking and upbringing of your kids…You are inspiration to many….Thank you for sharing such an great real story Aleeza….

  57. Author K.T. Lynn

    This is the most inspiring post I have read in awhile! May Allah reward her for her patience and strength! What a wonderful role model for the many ladies in similar situation. All the best to her and her boys insha’Allah <3

  58. Jameela

    That’s very good advice. Even having expectations of what a marriage is especially growing up watching Hollywood or Bollywood. These movies shape young minds and girls expect it to be all romance while it’s actually hard work on both sides.

  59. Maira

    It’s true most girls enter in to a marriage with a preset mind of “me vs them”. Which doesn’t do anybody any good. This mentality strains the relationship before they are given a chance to build. Girls should allow some room for error before passing the verdict onntheir in laws. I dont mean the extremell cases of course.

  60. Mona

    I totally agree with you “The tragedy in our culture is that girls come into marriages pre-conditioned thinking of their mother inlaw as a “monster” in law. “.
    This is so true! People always are hugely surprised with the fact that I ACTUALLY have a great relationship with my mother-in-law. She spent a month with me alone while my husband was away for work and I spend 6 weeks every summer with her when we go to Egypt.
    The problem is with the movies and TV shows that portray the monster-in-law and also when we listen to the people who have had bad experiences.

  61. Khadijah

    All very good advice sister!

    I have a friend whose in-laws didn’t speak to her at all for the first three months of marriage, even though she was living with them.

    By the will of Allah, one year on they’re like best friends! And call each other Mum and daughter haha.

    Alhamdulillah, my in-laws have been very supportive of me and say hello through video calls every now and again. They live overseas.

    The best marriage advice I’ve heard is that both partners should put Allah first. That way all other affairs will be good and fall into place,

    Another thing is that the spark at the start of the relationship won’t always be as strong throughout the relationship. That’s when you really have to put in effort to make it work.

    Thanks for sharing this article sister. May Allah bless us all in our marriages. Aameen.

  62. Nausheen

    Very good article sister , all the points you mentioned are true. Every girl has preset mind before getting married but yes patience , Efforts & Tawakkal on Allah is the key for successful married life….in sha Allah.

  63. Ayeina

    Such a great post ma shaa Allah! Good advices in the comments too! I would advise to appreciate the similarities and understand differences. Take small steps to achieve your goals <3 JazakilAllahu Khayr for sharing this with us 💟

  64. noor

    Isn’t it for example on arranged marriage, parents are the ones choosing to whom their children will get married? Is this still happening on them too?

  65. Jamila Jones

    This is a very good subject, I can’t really remember the advise I was given but I can say that communication and patience is what works for my marriage

  66. Fozia S

    I didn’t get much advice to be honest as it all happened so quick and noone in the UK knew it was going to happen!

    But have to agree with the advice given: get to know the person as a person

  67. Sumaira

    That is really helpful advice that all newly married couples should hear! I totally agree with you, we should take the time to get to know others and not have huge expectations that could set us up for failure!

  68. Author K.T. Lynn

    Wonderful advice! Whatever expectations you have coming into a relationship should be let go. Unmet expectations can poison a marriage and we have to be careful to avoid forming them! Great advice!

  69. Jamila Jones

    Jazzakallah Khair for the reminder and the handout. It’s true we have a lot to be grateful for, no matter what you are going through there is someone worse off than you.

    1. Aleeza S

      Absolutely! Gratitude helps you focus on what you have. Alhamdulillah for everything

  70. Sumaira

    Motherhood is such a tough but rewarding role! I had so many days where I just wanted to run away from it all! I could really relate to what was written here, and I absolutely love all the wonderful tips that were mentioned <3 Thank you so much for writing this xx

    1. Aleeza S

      Alhamdulillah you found it useful!

  71. Fozia S

    Completely agree with this: Most of the times motherhood feels like swimming against the tide.

    JazakAllah khair for sharing your tips and advice…especially remembering to be grateful

    1. Aleeza S

      InshaAllah it’s helpful!

  72. AYEINA

    I LOVE this. “No one had forced me into doing what I chose to do. But I was finding it so hard to find peace and contentment” – Jazakillah khair for sharing your gratitude board with our gratitude journal printables 💞

    1. Aleeza S

      I loved making that board! BarakAllah Feeki <3

  73. Calisha

    Thank you for your efforts Aleeza! You work also inspires me alhamdulillah! <3 Barakallah feekum!

    1. Aleeza S

      May Allah put barakah in all that you do <3

  74. Jamila Jones

    Mashallah, I really enjoyed reading this. I took your advice and sat down with a cuppa before I started. I also wake up early after fajer and find I get so much done, but I really need to focus on some of the other tips 3 – 5. Jazkallah Khair very inspiring.

    1. Aleeza S

      Now that’s more like it! Absorbing it all in with your cuppa mashaAllah! I really admire women who know how to relax even if its winding down with a cup of tea! Alhamdulillah you found this inspiring💛

  75. Umm nusaybah

    So inspiring and a timely beautiful reminder for myself! Jazaka’Allah khayr for sharing ladies xx

    1. Aleeza S

      Wa iyakki my dear sister. Alhamdulillah you found it inspiring 🧡

  76. Sumaira

    I loved getting to know sis Calisha through this interview, Mashallah what a true gem she is <3 I'm so impressed with how she fits Quran, exercise, homeschooling, being a mother, and being an entrepreneur into her schedule- incredible and so inspiring!

  77. Shoumuos

    Barak Allah fekom! what a lovely useful post. So inspiring I often do ask myself why am here? what’s my message? I know we were all created for a reason. Such a beautiful reminder Calisha.

  78. Author K.T. Lynn

    Wow mashaÁllah! This is so inspirational! I’ve been feeling a bit down and out lately and this interview really perked me up! 🙂 So much to strive for and al hamdililah Allah gave us 24 hours. Jazak’Allah khair!

  79. Ayeina

    Aameen! Barakallahu feekum <3 Ma shaa Allah! Such a motivational article! Indeed you don't have to prioritise business all the time. Planning things out is must! I love how you made your dream come true! <3 Alhamdulillah

  80. Muslimah_mina

    This is such an inspirational post, I loved sister Calisha’s routine. I hope I can accommodate Quran reading, exercise and some time for my blog daily. It’s good to know about how other mothers are doing so much more and also managing their families and homes.

  81. Fozia S

    Completely agree with the Quote: If you want your children to be excellent, then you have to be excellent yourself.

    JazakAllah khair for sharing..she sounds so organised masha’Allah

  82. Lubna

    What a beautiful post with awesome and encouraging quotes….It is wonderful to read about Sr Calisha Bennett….thank you for sharing….

  83. Jeanne

    Mashallah- so great to see you utilise this time of the year, which is inevitable to bring up questions, seeing as we do live in the west. I’m sure the questions will keep coming, and in turn I guess it’s just our duty as Muslim parents to explain while returning the focus to the one and only Allah 💗

    Thanx for sharing- will inshallah use these with my girls 👌

    1. Aleeza S

      Would love to see how you use the worksheets inshaAllah 🧡

  84. Zainab Dokrat

    I love this, working with children as a teacher this is a great way to also answer questions. I get a ton working for a Christian school as a Muslim and this is lovely! I think if you have kids this is great too, educating them so they can know and can answer questions their friends/teachers may have. (www.spicyfusionkitchen.com)

  85. Jamila Jones

    Mashallah, I really love this. I will be sending this to my daughter, I know this will be beneficial to her and my grandson. Jazkallah Khair for the handouts.

  86. Ayeina

    Ma shaa Allah tabarakallah! How amazingly you have discussed this! <3 I love how you have incorporated activities in between. Jazakallahu Khayr for sharing.

  87. Sumaira

    Mashallah what a wonderful way to spend time with your children on winter break! I love that these activities are both fun and educational! I will definitely be checking out these printables, thank you so much for sharing xx

  88. Author K.T. Lynn

    This type of post makes me dream about when I finally am blessed to become a parent inshaÁllah! Parenting is such a huge responsibility and mashaAllah you are going above and beyond!

  89. Fozia S

    I said on instagram that I was going to be doing activities with the kids and reading about Jesus (AS) in the holidays. Have a post in drafts about the books…really should publish it. Thanks for sharing your activities

  90. Nazrin

    This is such a beautiful way to teach your children as well as make them mindful of others beliefs and faiths – you’re preparing them for life out of their four walls and you are doing amazingly well!

  91. Ayesha Yakoob Al-Yousuf

    Beautiful, creative activity! We are het to discuss about Christmas as they don’t see the fuss around here. Still battling the demon of birthdays and highlighting the Eidain as the festival of muslims.

  92. Bushra

    Mashaallah I really love the way you teach your child about Islam… I’m sending this article to my nephew…Loved it very much <3

  93. Umm Ruqaiya

    Very nice most, jazakillahu khair.

    We are also planning to homeschool as of now, in sha Allah. For now kids are too young but we do untraditional learning through play as you said every moment can be used to learn.

    My reasons are exactly the same plus three:

    1. I want my children to be able to feed themselves, grow as individuals who know how to take care of house and themselves. Which I feel is more easily possible if they are homeschooled. I can’t expect this of them when they are most of their lives in school just studying books and not really learning life skills.

    2. I believe when kids are mostly around adults they grow better in terms of manners. Yes, friends of their own age are important but not most of the day, I feel.

    3. I don’t want my kids influenced by random kids :/ (I feel you did cover this but differently)

  94. Nudrat

    Great way to introduce Islam to your children

  95. Nayab

    This is excellent. Thanks for sharing. Will use this activity next year inshallah. Wish I had seen it earlier

  96. Nermina

    This is so great. We are hoping to use this next year when our oldest will be turning 5 iust after this period of time and understands more. Maybe even do it 6months ahead so I can get better at teaching it ♡

  97. Devina

    This was definitely me during many stages of our homeschooling journey of 4 kids! It was especially like this during those long months of young babies/toddlers. Alhumdulilah
    I really enjoyed the gratitude board idea MashaAllah, InshaAllah an important homeschool lesson to do with the kiddies❤️

  98. Mrs Omer

    Looking forward to win these islamic products.

  99. loquacuous dr

    i loved loved reading it. having young kids im always super concious about it even to the extent of paranoia. may Allah protect our kids from all evils.

  100. Samira

    Jazakallahu khairan for sharing! May Allah make this journey easy and may it full of barakah!
    My reasons for homeschooling would be :
    1. I know my children’s learning strengths and weaknesses and as their mother I will have the full liberty to.design the lessons keeping that in mind.
    2. I do not want to expose my children to the non-islamic practices in school.

  101. Shaistha

    salaam,
    i tried to download the “my life planner” zip file but i couldn’t seem to get it. i would really appreciate it if you could send me a file that i can download, as my life is in serious need of organizational help, as i am currently all over the place. may Allah swt reward you.
    jazakillah khairan

    1. Aleeza S

      Walaikumsalam sister. Just wait a few seconds after the initial dialogue box appears. Below it a link in orange appears withthe text “My Life Planner” click it and your planner should start downloading inshaaAllah. May you find ease in your life Ameen

  102. Zainab Dokrat

    I had an issue downloading, will try again after a while, maybe there’s an issue. Thank you for sharing by the way! (www.spicyfusionkitchen.com)

    1. Aleeza S

      What seems to be the issue sister?
      Just wait a few seconds after the initial dialogue box appears. Below it a link in orange appears with the text “My Life Planner” click it and your planner should start downloading inshaaAllah. May you find ease in your life Ameen

  103. Fozia S

    I am really bad with planners. I keep buying them thinking I will get organised but then never actually use them. Just threw away a few 2018 ones which I hadn’t written in at all!!

    I do need to start using them though as I am just so disorganised! Thanks for sharing this

    1. Aleeza S

      Don’t be so hard on yourself sister. You are doing great mashaaAllah!
      !

  104. Huma The Writer

    Jazak Allah khair sister for your efforts on building such a beatiful planner. I’ve been wanting to use a planner for a while now, InshaAllah will give it a go with yours.

  105. Tasneem

    Is there another way to download? The yellow box does not appear on my mobile. Does this need a desktop/laptop/pc?

  106. Amal Asif

    what a wonderful compilation, will definitely use them!
    Thankyou so much <3

  107. Salma Mehajabeen Shajahan

    I am unable to download it sister! It says an error

    1. Salma Mehajabeen Shajahan

      Thanks for the planner sister! Its really gonna keep me in track. Had issues in downloading but later was able to download in a while.

      1. Aleeza S

        Alhamdulllah! Jazakillah for letting me know sister. InshaaAllah it benefits you <3

  108. Ayeina

    Planning really helps!!! Great post ma shaa Allah! We usually plan our day around salah times. 😅

  109. Sumaira Z

    Thank you so much for creating this for us- it will be of major help <3 I saw this on your IG and totally forgot about it, but I just put in my email to download it, so excited xx

  110. Muslimah_mina

    I was just thinking of buying a planner and I came so glad that I came across this post at the right time. I tried to download the planner but the yellow box didn’t appear🤔

    1. Aleeza S

      Assalamoalaikum sister. Was there any success downloading the planner? Please try through a desktop inshaaAllah it works

    2. Aleeza S

      There have been many complaints about this so I have added the planner to the shop. Please check it now.

  111. Sakeena

    AsalamuAlaykum. i unfortunately didnt get the download link – i am using a desktop….if possible can it be emailed to me? Jazakillah

    1. Aleeza S

      Walaikumsalam
      The link has been updated and the planner has been added to the shop. Please try again now it should work

  112. Riza Khamal

    This piece is mashaAllah tabarakallah a good reminder on how should we approach and accept the challenges in our lives. I do agree, life wasn’t designed to be a walk in the park. Remembering that there is ease in every hardship is important, this gives us hope and not wallow in pessimism. Alhamdulillah for Islam, for it gives us opportunity to earn ajr even through a prick of a thorn, we just have to be patient, accept that Allah subhanahu wa taala knows us better than we know ourselves. He won’t test us more than we can bear.

    1. Aleeza S

      Yes! Jazakillah khair for reminding He definitely won’t burden a soul more than we can bear ♡

  113. Andale Seaworne

    Love this post! Surely Allah doesn’t leave anyone alone no matter how many sins one has committed and He does not burden a soul beyond what it can bear. If we have strong faith, being patient becomes very easy 😊

  114. Fozia S

    A great reminder for those that may currently be going through difficulty. And we may not understand our trials but as you say they may have a deeper purpose.

  115. Umm Ruqaiya

    Jazakillahu khair for the reminder 🙂
    Needed it.

    I love your pain notes picture. And that golden pen is simply BEAUTIFUL. Ma sha Allah

  116. Afreen Zia

    Jazak Allah khair for the reminder.

  117. Sumaira

    This was a great review of an amazing product mashAllah! I love how this journal comes with duas too and allows children to explore the 5 senses!

    1. Aleeza S

      I am so glad we have creative minds who are coming up with these well researched yet interactive Islamic products for our children Alhamdulillah

  118. Sumaiya Hamza

    Absolutely true review…. I am also enjoying this journal with my 3yrs old…. Her questions are so crazy most of the time I m unable to answer but trying my best

    1. Aleeza S

      InshaAllah our children’s inquisitiveness and curiosity pushes us to learn more ♡

  119. Yusra

    This really makes me realise that I probably have not done anything to earn Jannah..😔 and striving my best to earn by doing prescribed deeds by Allah
    I wish to b in jannah in first place and enjoy all d things bestowed upon us in there..in sha Allah…
    I would want to see Allah swt, all the prophets (as). The Khulafa rashideen, Jibreel (as) ,shuhadas,saliheens & I would want Allah swt to give my parents the highest of Jannah firdaws.😊..
    I also want to meet my child who left me in duniya😔 in sha Allah

    May Allah swt keeps all fixed on the sirat’al Mustaqeem, & grant us Jannah ameen.

    This is d best product which helps to imbibe islam in children in daily life..wonderful job by ayesha n odd muslimah sisters..may Allah give u ajr of providing us wid dese products ..aameen
    Im in much need of dis coz im in love wid dis journal n luking frward to add into my journal shelf and im also into journals deeply…hope to win in sha Allah

    1. Rizka Roswina

      In Jannah I long for the kind of contentment and peace that we dont gain in this world.. I want to see Allah, the angels, and the prophets.. I want to feel that kind of absolute happiness when I see them.. I want to know what it feels like.. I also want my enjoy all the things in Jannah with my family too..

      I hope Allah guides me and my family so we can be those who can live in Jannah for eternity..

      1. Aleeza S

        May Allah bless you with contentment of both worlds Ameen!
        ME and the collaboratr have chose you to win the Jannah journal. Please get in touch with your email address so I can send it right away <3

    2. Aleeza S

      May Allah make all your heartfelt wishes come true. Ameen ♡

      All is the most merciful. Never lose hope in His mercy ♡

  120. Daniya khati

    Salaam… Jazakillah khair for such a hearty review…. Would love to win and buy it sooner in sha Allah…
    I would love to spend my days with ummahatul nominees and sahabiyat in jannah along with all the amazing sisters whom I interact with on all virtual platforms but couldn’t meet in this world easily… In sha Allah together on the mesmerizing hills of jannah…. I just love this imagination….. 💕💕💕💕… Commenting on all the three odd muslimah pages and blog… So that I could win this beautiful journal to work with my kids who equally love jannah discussions just like their exciting mamma…. I really imagine jannah when I feel low in this worldly life….. It’s like a balm of assurance that this is for a while….. Eternal life is far more better thing Allah has created for us all…. Let’s strive for the best things in sha Allah

    1. Aleeza S

      Would love to meet you sister if not in this world then in Jannah for sure inshaAllah ♡

  121. Tantri Nur Permana

    Maa Syaa Allaah
    Best review ever!
    I really want to be into the knowledge of Jannah like you and ayeina do!!
    In Jannah I really want to see the face of Allaah ‘Azza wa Jall and Rasulullaah shallallaahu alaihi wasallam also of course all the prophets that we can only read the story in Quran right now.
    I want to meet ummahatul mu’minin Khadijah radiallaahuanha, and also the ‘alim Aisyah radiallaahuanha. And I wish I could see all family member gathered and everyone look really happy.
    Since I really love fruits I want to see and taste how tasteful is it every kind of fruit in Jannah.
    And oh! The rivers of clarified honey.
    Maa syaa Allaah Maa syaa Allaah. May Allaah subhanahu wa ta’ala grant us Jannah aamiin Ya Allaah Ya Mujiib

  122. Andale Seaworne

    What a beautiful idea!! I would’ve loved to have this book when I was little. I remember imagining what I would want to have in Jannah. This is a wonderful book to inspire children to learn about their deen and prepare for the Akhirah, but also a reminder to us all why we live the way we are living.

    1. Aleeza S

      It is indeed a beautiful journal. We love it ♡

  123. Salma Mehajabeen Shajahan

    need of the hour. I wanted this support at the moment.

  124. Fozia S

    JazakAllah Khair for sharing. It can be so hard at times but there are ways to manage your time Dhikr and Ibadah. Your tips will be useful for parents who are struggling in sha Allah

  125. Maria Ahson

    Extremely helpful Liz! Great reminders, and great tips for me to use right away.

    1. Umm Affan

      Alhamdulillah you found it beneficial ♡

  126. Andale Seaworne

    Mashallah what an informative session. I agree with this 100% that parents need to act as counselors, as people their children can always come to for guidance and most importantly to be understood. It’s true; you can easily love children but it takes work to understand them but that’s the most important thing to be done

    1. Umm Affan

      Absolutely! Understanding someone is the best thing you can give them ♡

  127. Fozia S

    Thank you for sharing. Great advice for parents on how to ‘counsel’ their children. As you say children can be placed under immense pressure and we as parents need to be there for them

    1. Umm Affan

      May Allah guide us to do the best for our children in a way which is pleasing to Him. Ameen

  128. Umm Ruqaiya

    Jazakillahu khair for sharing the notes. As parents we are in constant need of non judgemental advise 🙂

    1. Umm Affan

      InshaAllah you found them beneficial ♡

  129. Ayeina

    Such a beneficial post. JazakilAllahu Khayr for this. Indeed we need to put efforts in understanding our children.. They’re all different individually. f

    1. Umm Affan

      Yes we definitely need to acknowledge are children as individuals ♡

  130. Zainab Dokrat

    Wow this was beautifully written, I think nowadays people are becoming more understanding and not asking as much “when are you having kids?” or “when are you having more?”, It’s hard as well if you feel ready and you want a family but that chapter isn’t happening or you can’t find a good partner. InshaAllah Allah make it easy for everyone, it cannot be easy. It seems every major chapter comes with its own test for everyone. May Allah make easy for those who do want children and cannot get pregnant, may Allah make it easy for those looking for good partners and may Allah bless those with kids good, pious and healthy children.

  131. Andale Seaworne

    I can’t imagine what it must be like to have your future dream crushed after the realization that one is infertile. 50 million couples?? That’s a huge number of people! May Allah give them all strength.
    Very beautiful and informative post. I’m not in this situation but it is good to know what Allah can place in the future for me and others and how to react to it and respond to those who are undergoing infertility or not planning to have children at the moment.
    These are great simple & basic yet helpful tips

  132. Fozia S

    JAzakAllah Khair for sharing. Sadly so many people are insensitive about this issue, people get married and the community one month later start asking is she pregnant yet? I do think though that the new generations are changing and are becoming more mindful.

    May Allah make it easy on all.

    1. Guest Writer

      Alhamdulillah things do seem to be changing. But some things are very deeply ingrained culturally and will take time to root out.

  133. BushraZ Blogs

    Great piece of information… This post was very engaging. I can understand how hard it is for any woman.. May Allah Grant healthy and happy children to all the people who don’t have children. Aameen..

  134. Ayeina

    Such a different post!! People really need to think twice before asking such questions… May Allah bless all the couples who are willing to have kids. Aameen. Indeed Allah knows best and He is the best of planners

  135. Eva Zaynab

    What a beatiful reminder . It happens a lot in my household too and it reminds me of this -When the milk is splattered all over the floor and those little eyes are looking at you for your reaction, remember what really matters. It takes 5 minutes to clean up spilled milk; it takes much longer to clean up a broken spirit. – Rebecca Eanes. xxx

  136. Islam - The Ultimate Truth

    Jazak Allah Khayr for the reminder however I would caution you against exposing your sins. Jazak Allah Khayr

  137. Salma Mehajabeen

    Subhanallah what a beautiful reminder. I happened to see few Christian bloggers doing this as a live lesson few months back and when I wanted to do them as a life lesson to my daughter but felt it’s too early and stopped by when she was just 2 year old. This blogpost is a perfect reminder for us

  138. Ayeina

    SubhanAllah! Very beautiful. Children copy us always. JazakilAllahu Khayr for sharing this beautiful experience with us.

  139. Andale Seaworne

    What a heartfelt thought-provoking reminder of how one must control their anger. Great of you to apologize and talk to your children about it

  140. Fozia S

    A good reminder…I think most mums have probably lost their temper and then felt guilty. But we must remember that although inconvenient it can be cleaned up.

  141. HALIMA

    This is definitely a reminder for me. I soo relate as a similar incident happened in my household 3 days ago. The prophet’s advice on what to do when one gets angry is something I need to revisit again in my life. I use to practice and not too many things happening at the same time that i can’t seem to think about what to do when they do happen. Thank you for sharing this sister.

  142. Sumaira

    I can relate to this in so many ways! Thank you for sharing this experience with us and giving us wonderful tips as well. Lots of love and duas for you mama xo

  143. Lubna

    Good to know about your space. Appreciate your efforts. Enjoy what you do…

  144. Jessica

    Your story is very relatable to me. I look forward to your future content and to familiarizing myself more with your website.

    1. Umm Affan

      Jazakillah khair for stopping by <3

  145. Amal

    Thankyou for this reminder, keep inspiring 💗

    1. Umm Affan

      Jazakillah khair for stopping by!

  146. Umm Ruqaiya

    Nice to know you 🙂
    It surely takes courage to share one’s story with public. Especially when it comes to the painful parts which only we know how we survived and once put out there – people can comment on them in any shape or form.

    1. Umm Affan

      I pray many out there find comfort and courage in this story inshaAllah. Jazakillah khair for stopping by.

  147. Khadija

    Jazak Allah for these reminders.
    Definitely needed this article right now!

    1. Umm Affan

      BarakAllahu feeki! InshaAllah it benefits you <3

  148. Surieya

    …tearing (that’s all I have to say for now)

    1. Umm Affan

      May Allah give you comfort you are after my dear sister <3

  149. Eva

    Have seen these books and they always receive such great reviews . Thank you for your lovely review xxx

  150. A Sensory Story With Walters Wonderful Web – Our Amanahs Our Futures

    […] Book Review: “It’s Jummah Day” and “The Butterfly Refugee” By Minaret Mountain Books-The O… […]

  151. How to Find Time To Read with Your Child Everyday (Even When You Are a Busy Mother)!

    […] Book Review: “It’s Jummah Day” and “The Butterfly Refugee” By Minaret Mountain Books by The Odd Muslimah […]

  152. Fozia S

    Lovely intro and it has been a pleasure to get to know you through the Muslimah Bloggers community!

  153. Andale Seaworne

    MashAllah, SubhanAllah what ana amazing reminder. These are very important tips to help us read and ponder over Quran the right way with understanding, love and the will to change. I’ll save this for me to remember when I read The Holy Quran. I’m starting to learn Arabic also. Inshallah that will help alot.
    I especially loved that you tell us to read it even when you don’t feel anything which is important. One should atleast try to reach that state of peace 😊

  154. Eva

    Masha Allah such an informative and inspirational post . Will forward it to my what’s app group . So many great tips on how to truly connect to the Quran and remove our spiritual diseases .

  155. Fozia S

    Thank you for sharing. I think I first need to get my connection back with the Quran as I feel myself distancing further every day from it.

  156. Andale Seaworne

    Lovely intro. It’s great that you know who you are & that you’ve succeeded in your battles with your conviction & help of Allah Subhana Ta’allah. It does take alot of courage to share one’s story but it’s important like you said & it’s truly an honour meeting you & knowing it face to face. I share my story for this purpose as well

  157. Ayeina

    SubhanAllah! Indeed Qur’an is shifaa. It also gives calm to restless hearts. And peace to our minds. <3 May Allah help us gain maximum from the Qur'an and never distance us from it. Aameen

  158. Umm Ruqaiya

    Jazakillahu khair for writing this.
    I read in a book some time back that we need to live our lives in phases and not every project needs to be done in each phase. Children are the most important project we work on 😀

    I am personally amazed at how people unappreciate knowledge of a mother, not the degree but knowledge. A mother who is intentionally raising her children has way more knowledge about various aspects of life than others in my opinion.

  159. BushraZ Blogs

    Jazakallah for sharing your story. I really appreciate and respect your hard work. I’m very impressed with you that you are homeschooling your kids(it’s the best part of this article for me because I want to do the same when I get married and I’ll have my own kids). Your story is truly an inspiration for me… 😍😍

  160. Fozia S

    Must say I have been feeling really lost myself and was myself beginning to feel like I had wasted 4 years of my life doing a law degree that I am not using anymore.

    But those 4 years are what made me into the person I am today even if I am not literally using the degree. They helped me become strong and independant

  161. Juzaila Jumari

    I totally can relate! I experienced postpartum depression too. Started a blog just so I have an outlet and help new mothers make sense of motherhood. We have another thing in common, I wrote a children’s book too! High five sister!

    1. Umm Affan

      So good to meet you sister! Tell me more about your book!

  162. Ayeina

    Beautiful & Reflective! Knowledge never goes to waste actually..even when we go pursue something else in our lives. f

  163. Jessica Daqamsseh

    I related so much to your article. Before having my daughter, I completed a Masters degree program. When I became pregnant, I was adamant that I was going to stay home with her, especially for those crucial first few years of life. People were extremely critical of me and felt like I was wasting my degree. Sometimes we need to put our priorities in perspective and consider, how do we truly feel fulfilled? what do we want from life? Not every woman needs to fit the same mold. You can work, you can stay at home–as long as it’s the path you feel best for you, then pursue it!

  164. Aisha M

    SubhaanAllah!! I just saw your takeover on the muslimahblogs on IG and saw this title! I knew I had to come read it! Thank you soo much for writing this. I have thought about this for the longest time. I want to homeschool my children but also had identity crises and suffered with guilt that I was wasting my undergrad training and possibly the post grad too. SubhaanAllah. I am so grateful to come across this. In my mind I can still practice once the children get older inshaAllah. I am still thinking of homeschooling and would like to earn some income from home. Making lots of dua and telling myself to journal to process all these thoughts. Thank you sooo much for sharing this. Jazaakillah khair

  165. Andale Seaworne

    We shouldn’t keep the TV on all the time but atleast once or twice to be aware of what’s going on outside the house & so we don’t treat COVID lightly. Lovely quote and I agree, this lockdown has given us time to learn new things. True, a lot of panic is because people have lost control of a lot of things. Very true, As Muslims we need to accept good and wisdom in every situation and trust Allah. Very informative and helpful post!

    1. Umm Affan

      Yes we need to limit our screen time if not let go off it all together. May good out of this situation for all of us. Ameen ♡

  166. Fozia

    Have to agree with the switch off TV….even social media to be honest. We are just bombarded with information….some of it fake…and it can just overwhelm you

  167. Motia Tul Nabi

    Jazak Allahu Khayran for such wonderful advice. I love the bit where you talk about adjusting our mindset. With our niyah in the right place, everything becomes a form of Ibadah, Subhan Allah.

    1. Umm Affan

      I have recently been looking into quantum thinking and it ties up so well with what our deen already teaches us. Makes you fall in love with your deen even more ♡

  168. Umm Ruqaiya

    Beautiful advise ma sha Allah. Alhamdulillah for us multiple things are working:
    – as you advised, we are not keeping track of case numbers xyz. No news mostly.
    – preparing for ramadan has really kept me busy. And with 3 little kids I am just too busy already.
    – Muslimah Virtual Hangouts that were started since beginning of this Pandemic have been a blessing alhamdulillah. + doing weekly hangouts with family.
    – alhamdulillah my IOU term has just started so I am busy with that too.

  169. Ayeina

    Hard times for people who were already dealing with anxiety. Loved your perspective. Indeed Allah’s plans are the best. Things will change for better soon. Aameen. -f

  170. salma Mehajabeen shajahan

    Rightly said! Yes I really love to see the beautiful pictures to be seen arounf the social media for the decorations. Subhanallah I am a person who feels the stress,pressure around to keep things safe after the usage of that. But yes it gives a good feel, a positive vibe but I follow a policy at my home since my daughter’s first eid that we will have the decors based on her work. Alhamdulilah I am able to decorate my home with her crafts and nothing extra. and as I usually say there is no right or wrong in Parenting. We have to do what’s best for the family subhanallah!!

    1. Umm Affan

      I have been following your crafts. Indeed those lovingly created art pieces will make the best decor ever ♡

  171. Andale Seaworne

    True. Here apart from some people putting lights on their houses, there was no decoration or crafts made in Ramadan. I guess as a mother, you may have felt the need to involve your children in Ramadan wherever you can and for alot of people, if there is no apparent indication of your actions, they are not important. The goal of Ramadan is to rejuvenate our Imaan so whatever activities you do to help increase your and your family’s Imaan, that is more than enough. Nothing specific
    Very insightful post. Enjoyed reading it.

    1. Umm Affan

      I am glad you found it insightful ♡♡♡

  172. Muslimah_mina

    Such a timely reminder thanks for sharing this I was just contemplating on whether I should delete my social apps and go for a digital detox for a month. As you mentioned we should ponder on our intention and thanks for the Free wallpaper.

    1. Umm Affan

      BarakAllahu feekum ♡

    2. Umm Affan

      You are most welcome. Praying you are having a fruitful Ramadan ♡

  173. Fozia S

    I think social media can make you feel inadequate not just in ramadan but a lot of the time. People doing lots of crafts and activities with their kids while you are just surviving the day…….loads of fitness posts and ‘couple goals’.

    you are right though that it is just a glimpse of a life that may not actually be as perfect as it is made out to be

    1. Umm Affan

      Yes we unconsciously start measuring ourselves against whatever we see. I feel we should be be very intentional with our social.media usage out of Ramadan as well especially for sake of our well being

  174. Lail Hossain

    We live away from our family. Those of us who live in non-Muslim countries, we know that, to our children Ramadan and Eid can look dull in comparison to Christmas, Halloween, Easter, etc. There is little to no recognition of the Muslim holidays outside of our homes and masjids. Unlike Muslim countries, where markets, streets, television and the general population all foster a sense of connection to the month of blessing, Ramadan and Eid pass by mostly unnoticed in the circle of our kid’s friends.

    As a mother my intention is to instill the love for Ramadan in my child when decorating. I want her to be excited about Ramadan as much as I am excited when Ramadan comes around. I also want to make it special so she grows up knowing how special this month is compared to others. As a family, we love turning off all the lights and turn on our Ramadan decor and listen to the Quran and listen to a short lecture after Ramadan. We decorate because we want to create fond memories for our child with the intention of increasing the love of our deen.

    1. Umm Affan

      Living in non muslim countries comes with its challenges especially with children going to public school. The problem I have tried to highlight is the pressure that can be built up by what’s all shared online. I feel if we are grounded and confident in our beliefs, we won’t feel the need to emulate our occasions with other celebrations. Ramdan has a spirit of its own. I think we can signify the coming of something special by making some changes around the house. The problem is excessive spending and show off which is against the spirit of Ramadan

  175. Juzaila

    Great post, i struggled with social media the most because you cant help feeling that you are always doing less and it always seem not good enough. Must keep reminding myself and check your intentions.

    1. Umm Affan

      It’s a struggle with many I am sure. Being intentional definitely helps ♡

  176. Juzaila

    Despite the gloom, one of the things i love about ramadan and eid this year is that we have to stay home during the pandemic. It takes a huge load by not succumbing to the fallacy of decorating for Eid. My eid is going to be the simplest it has ever been!

    1. Umm Affan

      There is immense joy in simplicity ♡

  177. Zainab Dokrat

    I think it’s a personal preference. I know I love decorating, I love my home to look nice generally so I love decorating for Ramadan and both Eids. My mindset is why not, those are amazing times for a Muslim and it just enhances the mood, the vibe and it’s fun. I think it’s great for children as well, I think sometimes we just live life like such a routine, so why not fill your home with some joyous decor. I don’t think you need to take it to social media, when social media comes into play it usually ends up putting people off in the long run, like you can just do it for yourself and your family.. Also I don’t think you need to break the bank, you can reuse decorations over and over again, you can DIY all of it or get kids into the spirit of these celebratory days as well as yourself.

  178. Fozia S

    I do decorate to make it special for the kids. Living in a country where Christmas, Halloween, Easter etc is so visible, it is important to get the kids to have something to look forward to. However our decorations are never Pinterest worthy etc….we do it for ourselves and not to impress social media.

  179. Sharmeen

    Motherhood is certainly tough! Some great tips here. I think the best part is having the intention to please Allah whilst doing all this necessary but mundane chores for the family.

  180. Aruba

    Took me a long time to actually understand that don’t wait for the kids to go to sleep. You just never end up doing the things you want. Thankyou for this!

  181. Andale Seaworne

    Mashallah a beautiful article. I fear when I get married, I’ll get disconnected from the Quran and Allah in the hustle bustle of family life. Very useful tips, especially since you’ve been following them. My family has started praying in congregation now since lockdown has started. I suppose if you focus in parenthood for the sake of Allah and while knowing that Allah is watching, it becomes an act of worship in itself

  182. Alexandria

    Yes! Yes! Yes! I know Ramadan has passed for this year but you raise so many important points! I love the reflection questions that you’ve posted – those are a great way to really dial in and figure out your intention for decorating (or anything else really)!

    1. Umm Affan

      I am glad you found this beneficial. This didn’t sit well with many

  183. Alexandria

    This is such a helpful reminder! Especially during Ramadan but also overall, with our day-to-day usage of social media! It’s so easy to get stuck in the screens! SubhanAllah thank you for your thoughtful post!

    1. Umm Affan

      It is, it is! Sometimes we need to be reminded of just the thing we remind others of and your comment did just that. Thank you ♡

  184. Andale Seaworne

    Very true. You can try to change someone but its not easy. Even if its without any selfish intentions and just for their betterment, you can give them guidance but in the end its their choice. Our Prophet (SAW) was not told to change people, he was told to guide them through Allah’s world so that through His words, they could change.
    It does take courage to admit one’s mistakes but wow, it opens us to seek help? I didn’t really think of it and that does make it scary, to have your flaws exposed like that.
    So true. Majority of Pakistanis easily accuse, slander and blame others but when asked about what they did, they get angry. It’s so frustrating and I can only imagine how frustrating it must be for the current government.
    Great tips! Once we have self-acceptance, we can overcoming anything within us and outside us that is stopping us

    1. Umm Affan

      Your comment reminded me how the Prophet himself is reminded again and again thay he is just a warner. The onus of accepting the truth lies on the disbelievers themselves. Very easy to keep taking out faults with everything else. Diving in to fix our own issues does take work ♡

  185. Rooshna

    This topic has been on my mind lately. The need to control and change people and circumstances around us stems from our ‘desire’ to feel comfortable and happy. Often it leads to disappointments and regrets, perhaps coz we put our belief in ourselves more than we should in Allah.

    Also, when we release this trust and focus on changing ourselves, our reactions, our inner dialogues, we can feel a definite peace. Coz truly NOTHING is for us to control except our own actions & intentions. Even those are His gifts and we shall return to Him one day.

    Jazak Allahu Khairan, sis. I am intending to speak a bit on this topic on my Instagram stories in sha Allah. I’ll tag you to let viewers that we share similar thoughts, in sha Allah.

    May Allah reward you abundantly for always sharing gems with us. Ameen

    1. Umm Affan

      oh yes letting go off of control changes alot. And I think one thing that this pandemic should have taught us all is that nothing is in our control except our own thoughts and reactions. Waiting for your further thoughts on this ♡

  186. BushraZ Blogs

    MashaAllah you gave very deep and effective message through this post.
    Yes it’s true if we try to change someone we become frustrated and situation becomes worse.

  187. Danni B

    I think definitely as Muslims we have to be extra aware of ourselves, as we struggle so much more and small things can become so amplified within us. It’s a constant journey and fasting, keeping our salah etc really help with this.

  188. Fozia S

    Agree that you can’t really change anyone….they actually want to have to change themselves.

    Not everyone is willing to accept their short comings but this is what is needed.

  189. Erum Zehra

    Jazak Allah Khair for the beautiful reminder, it is so important to look at our own shortcomings as this is the only way we can better ourselves.

  190. Sarah Pervez

    Wow this was so beautiful to read and such an easy refresher course for Zhull-Hajj. Jzk for this! ❤️ May Allah SWT reward you immensely for this effort

  191. Andale Seaworne

    It’s good to have doubt about this so that we keep a check on our Emaan, thoughts and actions. Ice cream and chocolate isn’t so bad 😉 I agree with you. At school level, Islam has been taught just enough to survive but knowledge to live is colonizer & western information.
    Thank you for explaining these terminologies. I’ve been in a lot of doubt whether to consider myself conservative or liberal, feminist or not. I love your quote of Where we came from & Who we are. Will listen to your talk with Iram soon Inshallah

  192. Andale Seaworne

    Beautiful post. You’ve mentioned this when we met but knowing in detail why you made this decision is amazing. If ever I’m unable to practice, I’ll have the satisfaction of knowing I’m not a waste of space, all that knowledge will not be useless and my decision can be worth it. You definitely are always doing enough!

  193. Joanna Imran

    That was so insightful! I’ve always considered myself to be rather liberal in views, but this made me think whether I really am as liberal as I thought, and how that aligns with my chosen faith. I could definitely benefit from a bit of re-education on some aspects too, think it’s time to dust off some books

  194. Zainab Dokrat

    This was actually such a beautiful post to read and so well written mashallah <3 I think as women we are honestly so amazing, there are so many sides to us that make us who we are, but just as that is, it can also be the reasons we forget who we are. With each chapter in our life usually comes more responsibility; work, marriage, children, family, etc. Sometimes these sides can become too stressful and focused on that we lose the essence of who we are and we struggle with our identity. Not to mention at some point all Muslimahs struggle when it comes to even what we are and how we present ourselves, that itself can cause an identity crisis. Sometimes we're too hard on ourselves… This post hit every point. May Allah make it easy for all women, it's not easy and we face many struggles. Pray, have faith, be strong, never forget who you are and your dreams and InshaAllah may Allah open up everyone's doors to happiness and contentment. (www.spicyfusionkitchen.com)

  195. Fozia S

    So basically are we saying that if we have faith and religion then we will be totally fulfilled…and our role is simply to raise pious kids?

    1. Umm Affan

      I have been a mom only 6 something years and I did say it’s no simple task. The point being raised is that we need to equip ourselves with knowledge as to what are our rights so we do not allow ourselves to be impressed and also not be swayed by all the ideologies out there

  196. Zainab Dokrat

    I liked how you wrote this post because I do resonate with what you’re saying and I think a lot of people probably feel the same way. I think we sometimes forget as Muslims we’re all on our own path and we tend to forget this as we sometimes look down at others or others look down at us for where we are in life spiritually or assume where we are spiritually. Never let what other people say put you down or discourage you from persisting. Thank you for sharing and InshaAllah make it easy for everyone, we are all different, we all practice differently since we are all on a different path. (www.spicyfusionkitchen.com)

  197. Andale Seaworne

    I agree, when I started doing simple common acts of worship such as praying on time, attempting to pray Fajr, going to offer Taraweeh and reading the Quran more frequently, I was mad fun of by friends and family and was called ‘shareef’ or ‘maulvan’ till today as if it’s something I should be ashamed of or is too extreme. They thought I’d turn out boring. I take comfort in the Prophets’ lives as well.
    I suppose each of us was taught Islam or found their way to Islam in different ways so their understanding of Islam and the conduct they should have differs. Definitely, one must only worry about what Allah thinks, not people. One God is more than enough. JazakAllah for this! I would’ve loved to read this especially when I was younger and struggling but nevertheless, it’s nice to know how far I’ve come by relating to what you’ve written 🙂

  198. AYEINA

    Totally agree with you!! May Allah ease it for everyone struggling. The struggle is real and worth it! And yes Friends in DEEN are Friends Indeed! 🌸

  199. How to Talk to Your Muslim Child About Body Safety

    […] Odd Muslimah has this very nice article about the ways we can talk about Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch. It is a good example of responsible parenting that I highly recommend […]

  200. Fozia Shah

    Have to say I didn’t lose many friends when I became more practicing and started wearing hijab and most of my friends were non muslim. They were very supportive of my decision and said the hijab suited me.

  201. Andale Seaworne

    That’s true, it’s our differences between men and women that make us stronger together. There was somewhere I read is that the strongest person isn’t one who is physically strong but is one who is able to control his anger, so strength does come in different packages, tangible and intangible. Exactly, men have a high status based on their duties. Yay, fought misogyny like a woman!
    My strengths are being an empath too, good listener, patient, honest and responsible (not just complimenting myself, this is what my family says about me 🙂 )

    1. Umm Affan

      I second you being a good listener. It’s a rare quality these days ♡

  202. Shahira

    Absolutely true that we are created different and that we as women shouldnt be comparing ourselves to men and that we shouldnt be doing everything in context to Men but to God

    1. Umm Affan

      “We shouldn’t be doing everything in context to men but God”

      You said it!

  203. AYEINA

    True that! Allah created men and women different. We can never be compared. Subhanallah 🌸 I think I’m a good listener too. 😅

    1. Umm Affan

      You are a rarity in this this fast paced highly distracted world. Alhamdulillah you recognize your strength. I am sure many flock around you to vent out 😉 ♡

    2. Umm Affan

      We definitely need more good listeners in this world ♡

  204. Jamila

    It’s funny, I remember when I was young how I would always say I wished I was a boy or a man ( Subhanallah). In my eyes, as a little girl, it seemed men had it all. What was I thinking. I love being a woman. Allah has given women the blessing of bringing life into the world through their bodies. How great is that. Allah has blessed me with many skills. I would say my biggest strength is in motivating and guiding others to fulfil their dreams and potential.

    1. Umm Affan

      Most of us women have been there sadly haven’t we. Not many around us who have felt unapologetic and confident in their roles.

      That’s a wonderful strength to have ♡

      May SWT reward you for all that you do for His sake. Ameen

  205. Fozia S

    Lol good on you for remaining calm…I would have been tempted to accidentally hit him with the arrow!

    1. Umm Affan

      Hahaha. It hasn’t been easy! It’s taken many years of difficult internal dialogue to reach this point in life

  206. Hafsah Fatimah bint Farooq

    Ma sha’a Llāh it is a great thing to make others happy with even a small gesture.

  207. The Virtual Click

    Already! Ramadan already? Alhamdulilah I look forward to Ramadan the blessed month it really helps me to focus more on others and giving as you said. I do give gifts throughout the year also but Ramadan and Fasting is for Allah (swt) . This year will need to think about posting gifts and digital gift-giving perhaps. Jazkallah Khair

  208. Amal

    Very well put! Simple yet extremely effective tips to level & boost up your imaan especially after a big dip post Ramadan. Needed this reminder, thankyou for taking out the time to put together these practical tips for us!
    P.s Bonus points for the illustrations, can’t wait to see & read more!

    May Allah add more barakah to your work. Keep inspiring 💗

  209. Aamna Asif

    Loved reading it. Very helpful. Thank you for it into words.

  210. Rabeea

    MashaAllah this is so good. Much needed post after Ramadan. And the way you put everything, its inspiring!

  211. Rabeea

    I agree with you. You have explained it so well MashaAllah

Comments are closed.